One of the reasons I want to be fabulously wealthy is so that I can treat my friends, family and self to extravagant gifts. Generosity is a wonderful thing to be. But what about the other side of generosity? When you are on the recieving end? Do you grudgingly accept what is given to you with bad grace? Do you ignore people's generosity? Do you think 'oh I couldn't possibly accept that' and refuse it? Or do you graciously and gratefully receive what is given to you?
This has come up quite a bit for me of late - my beautician sister gave me a facial for my birthday, my friend's husband has offered to do my brakes, and I have been offered a free holiday in a friend's apartment. Once upon a time, I couldn't even receive a compliment with good grace. Now, I happily receive gifts and am a cheerful recipient of other's generosity. With these 3 gifts, I found myself refusing/ignoring the offers...not overtly or deliberately, just in my head.
Well, now I've had the facial - it was gorgeous! And the other 2, I am going to happily accept on the basis that the people offering were not on drugs when they offered and did so in good faith! I can't believe I was turning away from their generosity! If I had an apartment, I would let friends stay for nothing. If I could do brakes, I'd do them for friends whose car knowledge would fit on the corner of a postage stamp!
And when I do give what I can give, I feel great! So why deny my friends the chance to do the same? Why turn away good things? Why refuse gifts? And since I absolutely intend to be 'given' a fabulous career, a gorgeous house by the ocean, a fit bloke and many more things from the universe, I am saying YES to all the good in my life. This speaks much of your self worth - how good are you at receiving?
Today a holiday by the sea, tomorrow a mansion by the sea! To all those who wish to give to me, I say YES and THANK YOU!
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
Because it makes me feel good
On the Science of Getting Rich for practical genius' course ( see http://www.scienceofgettingrich.net/gifts/beachgift.html for more info), there is a lovely story:
a Tibetan monk was asked why he was always so optimistic. After all, he was in exile and his country was occupied by China. He might never have the chance to see his family again. The monk's reply: "Because it makes me feel good."
Are you optimistic or pessimistic? And how is that working for you? I used to be cynical, pessimistic and frankly, pissed off most of the time. Now, I am optimistic, positive and cheery most of the time. It's a choice. Which have you chosen?
Love
Donna.x
a Tibetan monk was asked why he was always so optimistic. After all, he was in exile and his country was occupied by China. He might never have the chance to see his family again. The monk's reply: "Because it makes me feel good."
Are you optimistic or pessimistic? And how is that working for you? I used to be cynical, pessimistic and frankly, pissed off most of the time. Now, I am optimistic, positive and cheery most of the time. It's a choice. Which have you chosen?
Love
Donna.x
Monday, January 29, 2007
When you can't think of a reason to be thankful...
'Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a
lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't
learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got
sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.'
--Buddha
Love
Donna.x
lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't
learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got
sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.'
--Buddha
Love
Donna.x
Sunday, January 28, 2007
For my first wish...
This week, I wrote a newsletter about the idea of Aladdin's Genie being an instrument of the laws of attraction, as presented in something I watched about 'The Secret'. It comes out tomorrow (monday) - go to www.donnaonthebeach.co.uk to sign up. Isn't that a lovely idea. Your wish is my command! Rub your kettle and make a wish!
What would I wish for? A home by the ocean in a beautiful climate, a bottomless bank account, a tall, handsome, intelligent, fun man, a brand new audi A4, fantastic income from a business I love, a life full of wonder and joy.
What would you wish for?
Love
Donna.x
What would I wish for? A home by the ocean in a beautiful climate, a bottomless bank account, a tall, handsome, intelligent, fun man, a brand new audi A4, fantastic income from a business I love, a life full of wonder and joy.
What would you wish for?
Love
Donna.x
Friday, January 26, 2007
A simple formula for happiness
What's the formula? Your life + stuff you like doing - stuff you don't like doing = happy.
Simple eh? Do more of what you like to do and less of what you don't. Ok, if you don't like your job, house, climate, friends, food, social life then you have work to do! But you don't have to do it all at once. Start by adding one thing that you like doing to your life, and take away something you don't like.
It's sometimes easier to morph something you don't like into something you can enjoy - like doing the weekly shop when the store is quiet, or allocating 2 hours for it instead of rushing. I actually quite like doing it when it's chilled and I can smile at other shoppers and banter with them...instead of rushing round like a demon and wanting an electric cattle prod to get them OUT OF MY WAY. Ah hem.
What got me thinking about this was that I was at my dance class today for the first time since before Christmas, and OHMIGOD did I enjoy it! Belly dancing is as much (for me) about laughing hysterically with fun people as it is an expression of my femininity. It's also bloomin hard work - I'd forgotten just how hard it is...and now I'm putting off taking the dog for a walk cos I'm knackered!
It's surprising how much difference just one thing you love doing can make to the outlook of your day. I woke up this morning (to the dulcet tones of next door's alsation...little b£$$%^&) in much the same humour as yesterday - stressed, tense, too much to do...and now I am sitting here cheerfully skiving off what I 'should' be doing. It'll get done...later.
Here's to a weekend full of things that you love to do.
Love
Donna.x
Simple eh? Do more of what you like to do and less of what you don't. Ok, if you don't like your job, house, climate, friends, food, social life then you have work to do! But you don't have to do it all at once. Start by adding one thing that you like doing to your life, and take away something you don't like.
It's sometimes easier to morph something you don't like into something you can enjoy - like doing the weekly shop when the store is quiet, or allocating 2 hours for it instead of rushing. I actually quite like doing it when it's chilled and I can smile at other shoppers and banter with them...instead of rushing round like a demon and wanting an electric cattle prod to get them OUT OF MY WAY. Ah hem.
What got me thinking about this was that I was at my dance class today for the first time since before Christmas, and OHMIGOD did I enjoy it! Belly dancing is as much (for me) about laughing hysterically with fun people as it is an expression of my femininity. It's also bloomin hard work - I'd forgotten just how hard it is...and now I'm putting off taking the dog for a walk cos I'm knackered!
It's surprising how much difference just one thing you love doing can make to the outlook of your day. I woke up this morning (to the dulcet tones of next door's alsation...little b£$$%^&) in much the same humour as yesterday - stressed, tense, too much to do...and now I am sitting here cheerfully skiving off what I 'should' be doing. It'll get done...later.
Here's to a weekend full of things that you love to do.
Love
Donna.x
Thursday, January 25, 2007
Honouring the seasons
I had a conversation today with a very wise man, Damien Churton, in which I was babbling about being stressed, and he reminded me of living to honour the seasons. For some obscure reason, January is seen as a time of 'new things' - those new year resolutions etc. I had a list of things I was going to start doing 'in the new year'.
But here's the problem, January is a dead month. So, what happens? I have a big list of things I AM NOT GOING TO DO! Ooh, that felt daring. I am convinced that in a previous life I was a bear - a hibernating for the winter bear. So, am I honouring the seasons? Am I f&^%! This is not a season for 'doing new things', that's spring...this is a season for rest, recuperation, sleep.
Insisting on having a 'list' of things I should be doing is just stressing me out. So, today as soon as it gets dark, I will be in front of a roaring fire...honouring the season. Aaaah, the relief!
See you in the spring!
Love
Donna.x
But here's the problem, January is a dead month. So, what happens? I have a big list of things I AM NOT GOING TO DO! Ooh, that felt daring. I am convinced that in a previous life I was a bear - a hibernating for the winter bear. So, am I honouring the seasons? Am I f&^%! This is not a season for 'doing new things', that's spring...this is a season for rest, recuperation, sleep.
Insisting on having a 'list' of things I should be doing is just stressing me out. So, today as soon as it gets dark, I will be in front of a roaring fire...honouring the season. Aaaah, the relief!
See you in the spring!
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, January 24, 2007
What are you telling yourself?
I spoke to someone today who has fantastic skills, amazing potential and a passion for what they want to do...and is telling themselves some really unhelpful lies "I am crap at..." "I can't do..." "I won't get..." Does this sound familiar? Is this something you do?
How much does it get in your way? Are you one of these who think it is 'realistic' to think this way? Let me tell you something, it isn't, it's negative. I know this because I used to say it was 'realistic' and I was always wrong! My worst case scenario's NEVER happened. Now, I believe that whatever happens, it will be for the best. If I am crap at something, I learn a lesson. If I can't do, I learn to do...or I stop trying to do (ski-ing...it's just too destructive!). If I don't get, I know that there's a good reason and I learn from trying.
Don't hold yourself back by focusing on what you are doing wrong, can't do and won't get...instead focus on showing up, doing your best and enjoying the ride.
Love
Donna.x
How much does it get in your way? Are you one of these who think it is 'realistic' to think this way? Let me tell you something, it isn't, it's negative. I know this because I used to say it was 'realistic' and I was always wrong! My worst case scenario's NEVER happened. Now, I believe that whatever happens, it will be for the best. If I am crap at something, I learn a lesson. If I can't do, I learn to do...or I stop trying to do (ski-ing...it's just too destructive!). If I don't get, I know that there's a good reason and I learn from trying.
Don't hold yourself back by focusing on what you are doing wrong, can't do and won't get...instead focus on showing up, doing your best and enjoying the ride.
Love
Donna.x
Monday, January 22, 2007
The most depressing day of the year
January 22nd. Apparently the most depressing day of the year according to UK boffins - the xmas debt/hangover, little daylight, it's bloomin freezin and all the New Year's Resolutions have gone by the wayside already.
So, let's see...it's flippin cold, I got back off my holiday last night and went from 28 degrees to 3 degrees and hail. Check. Xmas debt? No, but my holiday has left a dent in the finances. Little daylight? yep, it's dark. New Year's Res? don't make em so that doesn't count. Am I depressed?
Hell no! I thought I would be a little blue as my holiday is over and it's cold here and I want to live by the sea and I've spent a lot of money and...and...and. But I'm not. I was quite pleased to come home (would rather have stayed in the sunshine obviously, but it's home init?), the sun did shine today, the money I spent would normally have sent me into a tailspin but my finances are in good shape...I can't leave the house for a week, but come Feb it'll all be right as rain.
The back to work blues? Nope. I love what I do, I'm excited to be back at it having had some time to think and plan and forget about doing for a week!
I know that I am a very lucky girl to be so happy with life...and I'm not a one-off oddball you know! You too could have that sense of joy about your life - you too could be looking at the bright side of hail (a roaring fire!), you too could be happy. How? Start doing things you love, and stop doing stuff you hate!
Sounds simple eh? All it takes is one step to start you off, and you're going! Happy 22nd January!
Love
Donna.x
So, let's see...it's flippin cold, I got back off my holiday last night and went from 28 degrees to 3 degrees and hail. Check. Xmas debt? No, but my holiday has left a dent in the finances. Little daylight? yep, it's dark. New Year's Res? don't make em so that doesn't count. Am I depressed?
Hell no! I thought I would be a little blue as my holiday is over and it's cold here and I want to live by the sea and I've spent a lot of money and...and...and. But I'm not. I was quite pleased to come home (would rather have stayed in the sunshine obviously, but it's home init?), the sun did shine today, the money I spent would normally have sent me into a tailspin but my finances are in good shape...I can't leave the house for a week, but come Feb it'll all be right as rain.
The back to work blues? Nope. I love what I do, I'm excited to be back at it having had some time to think and plan and forget about doing for a week!
I know that I am a very lucky girl to be so happy with life...and I'm not a one-off oddball you know! You too could have that sense of joy about your life - you too could be looking at the bright side of hail (a roaring fire!), you too could be happy. How? Start doing things you love, and stop doing stuff you hate!
Sounds simple eh? All it takes is one step to start you off, and you're going! Happy 22nd January!
Love
Donna.x
Monday, January 15, 2007
Where the hell have I been?
Well, what a 2007! Back in the office for one day, then off with flu! Just caught up with my e-mails and I'm off on holiday in the morning! it's alright for some, eh?!
Seriously, for you avid readers out there (all 2 of you!), I will be back and blogging next week - and I'll have a note from my mother explaining my absences. Honest.
Hope your January has been a little less manic/zombied (a bizarre combination) than mine!
Love
Donna.x
Seriously, for you avid readers out there (all 2 of you!), I will be back and blogging next week - and I'll have a note from my mother explaining my absences. Honest.
Hope your January has been a little less manic/zombied (a bizarre combination) than mine!
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday, January 02, 2007
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I wish you all the happiness, joy and passion you deserve in 2007.
Remember: treat yourself with love and kindess. See yourself, celebrate what you see. Enjoy the journey that is your life. Enjoy who you are, because you are the only one of you there is.
You are beautiful, no matter what you say.
Love
Donna.x
Remember: treat yourself with love and kindess. See yourself, celebrate what you see. Enjoy the journey that is your life. Enjoy who you are, because you are the only one of you there is.
You are beautiful, no matter what you say.
Love
Donna.x
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