Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Happy 200th post!

Well, I was on my way into my account, wondering what the heck I would write about today when I spotted the interesting statistic '199 posts'. Meaning, that this baby is the 200th. How the dickens did that happen?! Especially as number 100 slipped past without me even noticing. Now, as I write on a few blogs, publish a couple of newsletters, and seem to write quite a lot, I often get asked 'how' to write.

Simple. Write. Looking back at some of the things I have written over the past year, I can say I have written some bilge! I have also written some really good stuff, which has been fun for me, and useful for readers. Whether it's bilge or brilliance, the key is to do it and keep doing it. The same applies to anything you want to do - you can't climb a mountain in one huge bound, you must take it one step at a time.

One action at a time will take you inexorably towards the life that you want. One at a time, until suddenly there are 200...and you are better at taking action, because you do it all the time. With the writing example, my articles are better now than they were when I first starting writing 3 years ago, and in another 3 years, I will be a better writer still...not because I sit around wishing I wrote better, but because I write.

What do you wish you could do...that you just don't do?! And might today be the time to start, so this time next year you can say 'blimey, look how far I've come?'

Love

Donna.x

Monday, July 30, 2007

How to Waste Time and Throw Sheep at People

I have one word for you:

Facebook.

My favourite procrastination aide-du-jour. Now, I could attempt to build a business case for fecking around on Facebook - to do with networking, making contacts and deepening connections - however, today it's all been about getting back in touch with old mates. My Monday Morning was very exciting because I heard from an old mate I haven't seen in years. Hazah!

Even better, there's an app in Facebook that allows you to poke, cuddle, buy beer for, and best of all, throw sheep at, your friends. It has been a source of some astonishment to me today that I am so deeply entertained by that fact. I think I need to get away from t'internet...it's getting a little silly. And I haven't got a stitch of work done when not on the phone to a client.

Have you thrown a sheep at someone today? (VIRTUALLY. Please don't try this in the 'real' world.)

Love

Donna.x

Friday, July 27, 2007

Goodbye Jackie

Yesterday I was at a funeral for a family friend. Death and funerals really test my ability to see the bright side, and bring up all my reactions to this optimistic shit! There's nothing bloody good about it!

But of course, there is. I would much rather there hadn't been a funeral...but there was, so I looked deep for the silver lining in this particular cloud. There were well over 100 people there, all who loved Jackie and wanted to be there to express that. It brought together people who had not seen each other for years, and I got to spend a day with family and friends.

It would be nice if it had been in better circumstances, but nevertheless I am grateful for the opportunity to have family friends look at me askance, telling me they remember me as 'a little blonde girl'. I am grateful for the chance to meet the kids while they are still little and giggly. And I am grateful I knew Jackie and have memories of her that make me smile.

I hope her eccentricity goes with her wherever she's gone.

Love

Donna.x

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Why Worry?

Shantideva said

“If you can solve your problem, then what's the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what's the use of worrying?”

Good question!

Love

Donna.x




Monday, July 23, 2007

Down Memory Lane

I have been racking my brains for something important, relevant and life-changing (like the usual posts!) for you today...but all I can think of is that a band I like are doing a Greatest Hits tour this winter.

No, not the Spice Girls!

A band I am sure you've never heard of - Shed 7. Britpop pioneers (apparently), and good live band. Part of the excitement is that I haven't listened to any of their albums for about 5 years - in fact, it took me half an hour to find them because they'd been put in the 'I don't listen to this' place. And most of the excitement is the nostalgia...Speakeasy reminds me (not of an advert) of winter and long hot baths (don't ask why, I have no idea!). Chasing Rainbows reminds me of smoky clubs and good times.

And the gig itself reminds me of dragging my friend along to see them, bouncing up and down for a couple of hours, and coming home from wolverhampton partially deaf. Can't wait to recreate the experience!

Next time something takes you down memory lane, take the time to really appreciate the nostalgia - we have all had good times that just get forgotten...it's lovely to relive some of the highlights (but without the hangovers and the knowledge of a mid-twenties crisis looming!).

Love

Donna.x

Friday, July 20, 2007

Do You Want To?

Interesting question isn't it? Do you want to? How often do you ask yourself this? I ask myself if I want to A LOT. It normally explains why I'm procrastinating or endlessly debating whether to do something or not. Take this morning and my dance class - shall I or shan't I? I woke up with this question in mind. Shall I or shan't I? Well, I've got lots to do here, but I really enjoy it. I don't know if I feel like it but I know it's a laugh. I could do something else instead but I love my dance class.

And ultimately: Do I want to? NO! If I did, I wouldn't be wondering whether or not to go! I'd be getting ready to go. Despite the fact that I love my dance class, it's fun, I have a laugh, I like to see my friends there, I enjoy it, and it helps me get fit ...I didn't want to go! No particular reason, just didn't want to. And I'm glad I didn't go, because I got to do some other stuff that I wouldn't have got to otherwise.

I know sometimes it's not much of a choice, but at least ask the question. For example, do I want to go to work today? NO. Do I want to go to work any day? NO. I have to go to work...but that answer tells me I need to find something else to do with my days. That's a real conversation I had with myself 8 years ago...and again 4 years ago. See, you can 'make' yourself do anything - go to a job you hate, be with a partner you don't love, go to a dance class...

...but why do that if you don't want to?

Love

Donna.x

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Finding Yourself

Have you ever heard the saying that what you want to find in the outside world is already inside you? Have you ever known anyone who goes away to 'find themselves'? Why would you go away to do this when it is inside?

Well, as someone who did this, I can tell you that sometimes you just cannot see what is inside. I went travelling in Australia for a year and discovered a relaxed, joyful, optimistic, fun, loving, peaceful, spontaneous, decisive Donna I previously hadn't suspected existed! Sometimes you need the change of scenery to see yourself.

There's another way...just start searching inside for what you want. I'm glad I didn't know this 7 years ago, or I might not have gone away...and now I don't need such drastic action! What are you looking for? What are your ambitions? What will they bring you? Success? Joy? Love? Peace of Mind? Look inside and you will see that you are already successful, joyful, loving (and loved), and underneath all the chaos hides peace of mind!

Some people fear to look inside, thnking they might not like what they see. What they don't realise is that your soul, your insides are the most beautiful thing in the world. Go on, take a look...

Love

Donna.x

Monday, July 16, 2007

13 Going On 30

I like a good chick flick. I also like a good teen flick. Put the 2 together, and you have a marvellous way to spend a Sunday afternoon. Not only that, but you also have a great lesson for life, should you choose to look for it.

Now you may think that the movie '13 going on 30' is pure schmaltz, brainless tv from fantasy-land...but you may have missed something. There's a really serious lesson here that we all need. When you become an adult, you are supposed to 'grow up' 'mature' and become sensible. The trouble is, that doesn't make most of us that happy. Once you're grown up, you can't be silly, you can't be immature, you can't need anyone else and you must get it right.

Now it's serious. Pah. I stick my tongue out in the general direction of that idea. It's cobblers. I plan to live til I'm 105, so I still consider myself at 34, a kid! I hope to still consider myself a kid right up until I'm 105...because let's face it, the more I learn, the more I realise I don't know. But here's what my pre-teen self knew that is still true:

- laughing is the best way to spend your time
- dragging your friends along to play is more fun
- enthusiasm is infectious (if sometimes misguided!)
- life is for fun, laughter, silliness, childishness
- grown ups are really boring sometimes

What have you forgotten that you knew for sure when you were young? If you were still young (even at 105), what would you want to remember?

Love

Donna.x
Last one to start laughing is a rotten egg!

Friday, July 13, 2007

Another good reason to be healthy

Health and cheerfulness mutually beget each other

Joseph Addison 1672-1719

Love

Donna.x

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Stating the Bleedin' Obvious

Recently I noticed something interesting - there is a correlation between how tired I am and how positive I am. When I am tired, things look more difficult...they feel more difficult...I am less energetic and optimistic. When I am not tired, I am absurdly optimistic, life is great and everything is very easy.

Now you may be thinking "well, d'uh". Of course there is a connection! And you would be absolutely right to do so, as it is obvious. But somehow, I had missed making the connection fully - I knew that I wasn't quite as 'switched on' when I was tired, but I hadn't done anything with that knowledge. I was still trying to do as much in a day as I do when I am 10 out of 10 energetic and rested...and wondering why it didn't work!

I am guessing that I am not the only idiot in the village. So many of us wonder 'why' we're not achieving so much with our day today, when the answer is simple...we need more rest! If you're not feeling 100% today, notice that your energy stocks need replenishment, in any way that works for you. Notice also that if you're physically under par, your emotions will be affected too (well, d'uh! Right?).

What do you need to do to recharge to 100%?

Love

Donna.x

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Never say Never (or Always)

I had an interesting conversation with a client recently, where they stated emphatically that they were always one thing and never another. With a little more questioning, they revealed that wasn't quite true, occassionally they were the opposite - in fact they could think of several situations where they were not what they always are! Never and always are interesting words...and usually lies! I am always cheerful...except when I'm not. I'm always right...except when I'm not. I'm always easy going, except when I am a tyrant!

My friend noted the other day that I never say a bad word about anyone (she hasn't been in the car with me when I'm behind a slow driver lately!). Never and always are words that will catch you out - sod's law states that the second you say you never get ill, you will get ill! No one likes to be wrong, so just never say never...and never say always either. Because ultimately, you don't know what tomorrow will bring...and I like surprises!

Love

Donna.x

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

A Diamond in the Compost Heap

In my newsletter yesterday I talked about finding the positive spin in a situation. Now it's all very well for me to say this...it can be harder to do! But there is always a positive spin. A friend of mine is in a really tough situation right now, and she e-mailed me yesterday to say that at first she wondered what I was on, then she realised that there was a positive angle to be seen.

It made me think that some examples might be useful to you. Before I do that - this is not about saying 'hey I'm really glad that I have a horrible illness' but about making the best of a situation you are in anyway! Here's the thing - reality is there whether you like it or not...may as well make the best of it, I say! So, here's some examples for you:
  • Being skint gives you a chance (reminder) to work on your financial integrity and work out what 'financial freedom' looks like to you.
  • Having chronic fatigue syndrome has helped me to set boundaries about what I can and can't do - it also reminds me to take excellent care of myself as if I don't, my body will react badly!
  • My mom having a heart attack made me realise how much I love her and how much the family took her for granted. It also gave her a great incentive to look after herself for a change.

What is happening in your life that needs a bit of positive spin?

Love

Donna.x

Monday, July 09, 2007

Smile Like you Mean It

Any tennis fans out there? If you are, you may have taken an interest in more than the singles' finals this weekend, and seen Jamie Murray and Jelena Jankovic lift the mixed doubles title. Now, my interest in these two is partly because I like double's contests, partly because Jamie Murray is a Brit, and partly because of the clear joy they have in playing these games.

You watch any sports contest between top players, and you will see determination, grit, fire, adrenalin and focus. Rarely do you see fun, joy, smiles, laughter. Jelena Jankovic managed to laugh her way through the entire tournament, joking with the crowd, inviting the ball boy to join her, smiling constantly and clearly thoroughly enjoying herself. This obviously affected Jamie, who also smiled and laughed a lot.

It was wonderful to watch. It is a delight to watch joy in action - and this was joy in action. I wish to thank both of them for being little rays of sunshine to my weekend - their obvious enjoyment increased my enjoyment of my weekend, and reminded me to laugh and have fun, whatever I'm doing.

Are you laughing and having fun, whatever you're doing?

Love

Donna.x

Friday, July 06, 2007

Today's Note from the Universe

This really made me chuckle today - if you don't sign up for these daily 'notes from the universe', do it now - www.tut.com.

"Arms up and out, half bent, hands just above head level, facing your peeps waving in a circular fashion. Subtly sway to the left, then to the right. Keep with it, back and forth. Don't stop waving. Now mix in a gentle bob, up and down... That's right, Donna, good...
Now add a little, "Whoo-hooooo, Whoo-hoooo....." as you sway.

Perfect.

Just 5 seconds of this happy dance, just 5 seconds, even when feeling blue, will always make you smile. Your smile will lift your spirits. Your spirits will summon ancient friends. And your friends will raise you higher into the light. Works every time.

This has been a public service announcement brought to you by.... The Universe

Ever read my mother's book, DANDELION? About a little horse that can't find her place in life... until she does! I cry every time I read it. And Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "Dandelion is a marvelous story of the triumph of spirit."
Hardback copies are still being personalized and autographed! Dandelion!
Thoughts become things... choose the good ones! ® © www.tut.com ®

No one said shimmy, Donna. "

Have a magnificent weekend!

Love

Donna.x

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Don't let the Rain get you down

I’ve noticed something surprising this week – It’s been raining for about a month, and I am not getting depressed when I see another rainy sky.  It’s most curious.  I am normally a very ‘weather affected’ person.

 

I think, finally, I have stopped letting things beyond my control get me down (although, put an old dear in an 07 reg car pootling along in front of me when I can’t overtake, and that will be put to the test!).  I can’t choose the weather…but I can choose how I react to it.  I can be miserable because it’s pishing down and has been for weeks, or I can make the best of things.

 

A great way to do this is to be grateful.  Grateful that the grass can grow, that my house isn’t flooded, that I haven’t been washed away in flood water, that we won’t get a hosepipe ban (surely!), that I have my health, that I have had some comedy moments in the rain…

 

Ultimately, it will rain whether or not you are fed up about it…so why bother?  Let the sky cry, while you grin cheerfully back.

 

Love

 

Donna.x

 

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Wednesday, July 04, 2007

One of those days

Just in case anyone else is having one of those days, I want to tell you what I did this morning...

I walked the dog to the recycling centre with a couple of bags of clothes - went up to the clothes bin, hoisted all the bags into the bin. Chore done, we continued towards the fields on our walk. Once we got into the fields, I realised I didn't have the bag with her poop scoop in it...I'd hoisted that into the recycling bin too! Oops. With no live poo in it (unless yesterday's poo wasn't cleared out...ugh). Sigh.

At this point I realised I should probably go back to bed for the day!

If you're having one of those days, remember to see the funny side.

Love

Donna.x

Tuesday, July 03, 2007

A Physical Being

For the past 3 months, my excuse for not doing any yoga has been that I need a new yoga mat. I finally got round to buying one at the weekend, and have since been exploring the flexibility of my body (conclusion: I am as flexible as a dry twig!). After an exercise hiatus, I am this week getting back into the habit of doing yoga, dancing, walking and swimming...and just 3 days in to the new routine, I feel a thousand times better.

The 21st century encourages a largely sedentary lifestyle in too many of us, with exercise just one more thing to be fitted into a busy day. The irony is that exercise makes that busy day easier. Admit it, you feel better when you exercise - your circulation, heart rate and happiness rate all improve. When your brain is oxygenated, you can work smarter, and when you are physically tired, you sleep better.

Even though we know all this, we still have 201 excuses not to do exercise! So here's what I did: I decided the minimum that I would be happy with each week, and have committed to that. I can do more if I want to (which I always do), but I've made it so easy that it would actually be harder to find an excuse not to exercise!

Remember that you are a physical being, and today decide what teensy, easy thing you could do to get that body moving. Oh yeah, and then do it!

Love

Donna.x

Monday, July 02, 2007

Blue skies and buckets of water

Anyone who isn't in the UK at the moment may not know how much fun the British Summer this year is. So far, we've had 2 weeks of good weather in April...and that's it. Summer officially began in June and it's pished it down ever since. The weird thing is that when the clouds disappear (for 4 seconds) and there is blue sky and sunshine, it's bloomin hot! And when it rains...it RAINS!

I went out to walk the dog today, and was lucky with the weather for 38 minutes of the 40 minute walk. Unfortunately, in the other 2 minutes, it RAINED. I looked like I had a bucket of water chucked at me. And then had the bizarre experience of walking back to the house soaking wet with not a cloud in the sky. Anyone who missed the sudden downpour would have assumed I'd just thrown myself in a stream.

It got me thinking...sometimes life takes you by surprise. And all you can do is laugh. (after scowling at the sky, running under a tree and shaking like a wet dog)

Love

Donna.x