From the book of doing things the hard way:
Rule number 3: Do everything alone. Get no support. Get no help. Carry the entire project on your shoulders.
BUT if you wanted to make life easier, why not enlist friends? Colleagues? Peers? I have been really lucky this week that the people I have spoken to have supported me unasked, have challenged me unasked, and have inspired me unasked. We just got together for a chat, and I got more out of those chats than I can possibly ever artiulate. It reminded me that 2 heads are better than 1, 5 heads are better than 2...
Whatever you are working on right now, in your private or business life, get support, get a community, get other people to help you. And you never know, there might be someone out there right now who needs your support. Win/win.
Love
Donna.x
PS the first person to e-mail me the name of the film I got the 5 heads bit from wins a free 30 minute coaching session - might be just the support you need!
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Monday, January 28, 2008
This is the Truth
This morning, I received a short film that really, says it all.
Even in the most dreadful circumstances, there is beauty to be found in the world.
If this guy could do it in the concentration camps, you can do it in the office!
Light in The Darkness
Love
Donna.x
Even in the most dreadful circumstances, there is beauty to be found in the world.
If this guy could do it in the concentration camps, you can do it in the office!
Light in The Darkness
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Push You, Pull Me
Are your relationships balanced? Do your friends and family support you as you support them? I know that sometimes we need more support than we can give and sometimes our friends and family need us more than we need them.
But taking the long view, looking at the relationship overall, are you giving more than you receive? Consistently? Are you asking for the support you need? Or are you trying to be superwoman/man?
Relationships, friendships are all about mutual support, love, encouragement. If you're not getting that, maybe it's time to change things? (by the way this doesn't have to mean you sack all your friends...it might just mean you need to ask for their support!)
You deserve this support.
Love
Donna.x
But taking the long view, looking at the relationship overall, are you giving more than you receive? Consistently? Are you asking for the support you need? Or are you trying to be superwoman/man?
Relationships, friendships are all about mutual support, love, encouragement. If you're not getting that, maybe it's time to change things? (by the way this doesn't have to mean you sack all your friends...it might just mean you need to ask for their support!)
You deserve this support.
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
The Longing behind the Should
This week I wrote a newsletter about the demon 'shoulds' - those things that we 'should' do and feel terrible about because we don't do. I asked readers to take a look at what was behind the should - for example, behind 'I should diet' is 'I want to feel good about myself'. The idea is to find what you really want, because there are other ways. In this case, raising confidence, eating better, dressing well, exercising will all accomplish the desired result. No diet recquired.
The same concept (sychronistically) came up in a client session today, and my client put it perfectly. "Find the longing behind the should". When you find the desire fuelling the should, you will find the drive to do what you want to do...and it won't be a should, must, have to or ought to anymore. It'll be a want. Much easier...and no diet recquired!
love
Donna.x
The same concept (sychronistically) came up in a client session today, and my client put it perfectly. "Find the longing behind the should". When you find the desire fuelling the should, you will find the drive to do what you want to do...and it won't be a should, must, have to or ought to anymore. It'll be a want. Much easier...and no diet recquired!
love
Donna.x
Monday, January 21, 2008
To Start With
Do you have a project that is lying unfinished, unattended to, unloved that you actually really WANT to do, but never seem to get to? My project for this category is my ebook(s)/Ecourse(s). I really want to get them done, I am constantly meeting people who would enjoy them and find them useful, and yet I never seem to get to writing them.
So guess how I started the day today? Yes, I set my timer for an hour and wrote. Funnily enough, once I got into it, I actually went way past the hour. And having done that, I can continue with my usual fannying about for the rest of the day safe in the knowledge that the one thing I really wanted to get to today has been done already.
Move the projects that mean the most to you up your priority list. If you can, start the day with them. Or start the evening with them (before Eastenders!). The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important.
Love
Donna.x
So guess how I started the day today? Yes, I set my timer for an hour and wrote. Funnily enough, once I got into it, I actually went way past the hour. And having done that, I can continue with my usual fannying about for the rest of the day safe in the knowledge that the one thing I really wanted to get to today has been done already.
Move the projects that mean the most to you up your priority list. If you can, start the day with them. Or start the evening with them (before Eastenders!). The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important.
Love
Donna.x
Friday, January 18, 2008
Time For a Clearout
It's coming to that time for me again, the time when I feel like I need to throw some stuff out! Early spring cleaning.
If you feel like joining me in a clearout, remember if you don't love it, let it go.
Have a great weekend!
Love
Donna.x
If you feel like joining me in a clearout, remember if you don't love it, let it go.
Have a great weekend!
Love
Donna.x
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Playing the Game
The Game of Life.
How are you playing? Are you fighting over ever throw of the dice, taking it all personally, giving up after a few throws, deciding that you will never win so why play, getting pissed off with other players for getting the wins that you wanted, sulking, taking it very seriously or being enormously competitive?
In other words, are you forgetting that it's a game? Life (in my humble opinion) is FUN! We get to do some really cool stuff on this planet - dancing, laughing, horizontal exercise ;-), bouncing, loving, being with friends, watching crap tv, seeing the sunrise and set, watching the seasons turn and the kids grow.
When you remember that its a game to be played and enjoyed, you can change your experience of it. Instead of it being hard and stressful, it becomes easy and fun...and you get to learn to play better rather than making the same mistakes over again. And the best thing about this game? There are no losers. You can only win the game of life.
Love
Donna.x
How are you playing? Are you fighting over ever throw of the dice, taking it all personally, giving up after a few throws, deciding that you will never win so why play, getting pissed off with other players for getting the wins that you wanted, sulking, taking it very seriously or being enormously competitive?
In other words, are you forgetting that it's a game? Life (in my humble opinion) is FUN! We get to do some really cool stuff on this planet - dancing, laughing, horizontal exercise ;-), bouncing, loving, being with friends, watching crap tv, seeing the sunrise and set, watching the seasons turn and the kids grow.
When you remember that its a game to be played and enjoyed, you can change your experience of it. Instead of it being hard and stressful, it becomes easy and fun...and you get to learn to play better rather than making the same mistakes over again. And the best thing about this game? There are no losers. You can only win the game of life.
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
What a BUZZ!
I am really buzzing today (unimaginable on Monday, when I was busy having a BAD DAY!). Part of the difference (as well as being more cheerful in general!) is that i went to my Toastmasters club last night and reconnected with the lovely people there. I went to Toastmasters initially to learn to be a good speaker, and discovered to my rapture that it was great fun, I've met some lovely friends, AND I'm a far better speaker.
But over recent months, I've not been to my club. First it was a holiday, then I lost my uncle and was in no mood to go out, then it was winter and cold and dark, then I'd got out of the habit and forgotten how wonderful it was! Honestly, if you have any interest in public speaking, in improving your confidence, or in meeting some really interesting and fun people, go find yourself a Toastmasters club.
Love
Donna.x
But over recent months, I've not been to my club. First it was a holiday, then I lost my uncle and was in no mood to go out, then it was winter and cold and dark, then I'd got out of the habit and forgotten how wonderful it was! Honestly, if you have any interest in public speaking, in improving your confidence, or in meeting some really interesting and fun people, go find yourself a Toastmasters club.
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
A weather lesson
"All of us could take a lesson from the weather.
It pays no attention to Criticism."
I've seen this one a few times before, and always love it! Thanks to my mate Hils who sent the e-mail containing this today. Ain't it true? We brits love to discuss (moan) about the weather...but it takes absolutely no notice. Just carries on doing it's own thing.
Imagine it. You are oblivious to what 'other people' might say or think, you just carry on doing your own thing... How might you have lived your life differently? How could you live life differently now? It's your life, are you the one living it?
Love
Donna.x
It pays no attention to Criticism."
I've seen this one a few times before, and always love it! Thanks to my mate Hils who sent the e-mail containing this today. Ain't it true? We brits love to discuss (moan) about the weather...but it takes absolutely no notice. Just carries on doing it's own thing.
Imagine it. You are oblivious to what 'other people' might say or think, you just carry on doing your own thing... How might you have lived your life differently? How could you live life differently now? It's your life, are you the one living it?
Love
Donna.x
Monday, January 14, 2008
Feeling Very Monday-ish
I've been feeling very Monday-ish today. When I started working for myself, I deliberately arranged Mondays so that I wouldn't have to feel Monday-ish. Today, it didn't work. I am feeling under-enthused, unmotivated, uninspired, not really like working at all.
In fact, I've felt like doing chores! It's most unlike me, I normally hate doing chores because I'd rather do something interesting. Not today, I'm just in the mood for repetitive, boring things I don't really need to concentrate on.
Now you'd think as a coach, I would be 'geeing myself up' and employing positive thinking techniques. However, I've never been a big fan of pretending I feel great when I actually feel a bit ordinary. To me, that's denial! Instead, I have spent the day just reaching for a slightly better feeling, then a slightly better one, then a slightly better one...and so on.
Massive leaps in mood are difficult, from depression to joy is a long way when you're down there. But you can feel a little better, and a little better, until you are feeling a lot better! Just remember to work from where you are. We all have monday-ish days, where we're just not feeling the best. If you can, allow yourself to be fed up for a bit, then just ask of yourself a slightly better feeling.
It's a lot easier to climb the ladder one rung at a time than to leap six feet (miss, fall down and feel even more battered and bruised than you did before!).
Love
Donna.x
In fact, I've felt like doing chores! It's most unlike me, I normally hate doing chores because I'd rather do something interesting. Not today, I'm just in the mood for repetitive, boring things I don't really need to concentrate on.
Now you'd think as a coach, I would be 'geeing myself up' and employing positive thinking techniques. However, I've never been a big fan of pretending I feel great when I actually feel a bit ordinary. To me, that's denial! Instead, I have spent the day just reaching for a slightly better feeling, then a slightly better one, then a slightly better one...and so on.
Massive leaps in mood are difficult, from depression to joy is a long way when you're down there. But you can feel a little better, and a little better, until you are feeling a lot better! Just remember to work from where you are. We all have monday-ish days, where we're just not feeling the best. If you can, allow yourself to be fed up for a bit, then just ask of yourself a slightly better feeling.
It's a lot easier to climb the ladder one rung at a time than to leap six feet (miss, fall down and feel even more battered and bruised than you did before!).
Love
Donna.x
Friday, January 11, 2008
Confronting Obstacles
In a novel, Isabel Allende writes "Confront obstacles as they appear, don't waste energy fearing what you may meet in the future."
Imagine the energy you would free up if you refused to worry about anything you couldn't confront right now...not turning a blind eye, or militantly ignoring an obstacle that's biting your bum, but refusing to worry and stress over something that might never happen.
Personally, I'd have freed up about 5 years of the last 35!!!
Here's to a fear and worry free weekend!
Love
Donna.x
Imagine the energy you would free up if you refused to worry about anything you couldn't confront right now...not turning a blind eye, or militantly ignoring an obstacle that's biting your bum, but refusing to worry and stress over something that might never happen.
Personally, I'd have freed up about 5 years of the last 35!!!
Here's to a fear and worry free weekend!
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, January 09, 2008
Knowing How to Heal You
I was listening to a radio show today from Caroline Myss on Hay House Radio in which she mentioned that all of us know more about how to heal ourselves than we actually do. For example, we know we need more exercise, better food, more sunshine, more rest...but we don't do it.
Here's an experiment for you: Think of 3 things that you know would help your health...and this week committ to doing them.
Here's to a Happy and Healthy you!
Love
Donna.x
Here's an experiment for you: Think of 3 things that you know would help your health...and this week committ to doing them.
Here's to a Happy and Healthy you!
Love
Donna.x
Monday, January 07, 2008
Back in the Saddle
HELLO! I'm back y'all.
My apologies to anyone who expected, wanted, looked for an update on this blog over Christmas...what can I say?! I didn't really intend to be quite so offline as I was this Christmas, but I have to say, it's been marvellous! I'm only just realising just how marvelous it was to have time to just chill, and think, and plan the year, and play games, read other people's blogs, and potter about.
Now I'm back to it, and today discovered (or uncovered if you like!) my main intention for 2008 - TO ENJOY LIFE! I have been marinating in all my ideas, hopes and dreams for the coming year, and when I stopped to ask myself the one most important thing (by talking to my archetypes, wild woman, future self and so on*)...ENJOY LIFE was the one.
If you similarly wish to enjoy your life this year, I'd like to share 2 practices with you that I started (again) today:
1. Toleration busting - this is where you make a list of 100 things that are irritating you - from the dusty laptop to the 10 extra p0unds you're carrying. From the itsy-bitsy unimportant things to the life changing. Once you've got stuff on your list, the game is to fix one thing a day (at least). Pick the easiest thing to change...you will be amazed at how much energy this frees up, and how much more enjoyment you start getting from life without this minor irritations.
2. The list of stuff you love to do. 100 things you love doing - the game here is to do as many of them as you can fit in on a daily basis...you may not be able to walk on the beach daily, but you can read a book for 10 minutes. Again, you'll be amazed at how great this exercise is! You start to notice how much stuff you do that you love, and to enjoy it fully...like you do when you're new to something, really appreciating the stuff you get to do.
Love Life
Love
Donna.x
* By the way, if you're interested in archetypes, future selves, etc, feel free to get in touch - I love doing this stuff!!!
My apologies to anyone who expected, wanted, looked for an update on this blog over Christmas...what can I say?! I didn't really intend to be quite so offline as I was this Christmas, but I have to say, it's been marvellous! I'm only just realising just how marvelous it was to have time to just chill, and think, and plan the year, and play games, read other people's blogs, and potter about.
Now I'm back to it, and today discovered (or uncovered if you like!) my main intention for 2008 - TO ENJOY LIFE! I have been marinating in all my ideas, hopes and dreams for the coming year, and when I stopped to ask myself the one most important thing (by talking to my archetypes, wild woman, future self and so on*)...ENJOY LIFE was the one.
If you similarly wish to enjoy your life this year, I'd like to share 2 practices with you that I started (again) today:
1. Toleration busting - this is where you make a list of 100 things that are irritating you - from the dusty laptop to the 10 extra p0unds you're carrying. From the itsy-bitsy unimportant things to the life changing. Once you've got stuff on your list, the game is to fix one thing a day (at least). Pick the easiest thing to change...you will be amazed at how much energy this frees up, and how much more enjoyment you start getting from life without this minor irritations.
2. The list of stuff you love to do. 100 things you love doing - the game here is to do as many of them as you can fit in on a daily basis...you may not be able to walk on the beach daily, but you can read a book for 10 minutes. Again, you'll be amazed at how great this exercise is! You start to notice how much stuff you do that you love, and to enjoy it fully...like you do when you're new to something, really appreciating the stuff you get to do.
Love Life
Love
Donna.x
* By the way, if you're interested in archetypes, future selves, etc, feel free to get in touch - I love doing this stuff!!!
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