I like a good chick flick. I also like a good teen flick. Put the 2 together, and you have a marvellous way to spend a Sunday afternoon. Not only that, but you also have a great lesson for life, should you choose to look for it.
Now you may think that the movie '13 going on 30' is pure schmaltz, brainless tv from fantasy-land...but you may have missed something. There's a really serious lesson here that we all need. When you become an adult, you are supposed to 'grow up' 'mature' and become sensible. The trouble is, that doesn't make most of us that happy. Once you're grown up, you can't be silly, you can't be immature, you can't need anyone else and you must get it right.
Now it's serious. Pah. I stick my tongue out in the general direction of that idea. It's cobblers. I plan to live til I'm 105, so I still consider myself at 34, a kid! I hope to still consider myself a kid right up until I'm 105...because let's face it, the more I learn, the more I realise I don't know. But here's what my pre-teen self knew that is still true:
- laughing is the best way to spend your time
- dragging your friends along to play is more fun
- enthusiasm is infectious (if sometimes misguided!)
- life is for fun, laughter, silliness, childishness
- grown ups are really boring sometimes
What have you forgotten that you knew for sure when you were young? If you were still young (even at 105), what would you want to remember?
Love
Donna.x
Last one to start laughing is a rotten egg!
Monday, July 16, 2007
Friday, July 13, 2007
Another good reason to be healthy
Health and cheerfulness mutually beget each other
Joseph Addison 1672-1719
Love
Donna.x
Thursday, July 12, 2007
Stating the Bleedin' Obvious
Recently I noticed something interesting - there is a correlation between how tired I am and how positive I am. When I am tired, things look more difficult...they feel more difficult...I am less energetic and optimistic. When I am not tired, I am absurdly optimistic, life is great and everything is very easy.
Now you may be thinking "well, d'uh". Of course there is a connection! And you would be absolutely right to do so, as it is obvious. But somehow, I had missed making the connection fully - I knew that I wasn't quite as 'switched on' when I was tired, but I hadn't done anything with that knowledge. I was still trying to do as much in a day as I do when I am 10 out of 10 energetic and rested...and wondering why it didn't work!
I am guessing that I am not the only idiot in the village. So many of us wonder 'why' we're not achieving so much with our day today, when the answer is simple...we need more rest! If you're not feeling 100% today, notice that your energy stocks need replenishment, in any way that works for you. Notice also that if you're physically under par, your emotions will be affected too (well, d'uh! Right?).
What do you need to do to recharge to 100%?
Love
Donna.x
Now you may be thinking "well, d'uh". Of course there is a connection! And you would be absolutely right to do so, as it is obvious. But somehow, I had missed making the connection fully - I knew that I wasn't quite as 'switched on' when I was tired, but I hadn't done anything with that knowledge. I was still trying to do as much in a day as I do when I am 10 out of 10 energetic and rested...and wondering why it didn't work!
I am guessing that I am not the only idiot in the village. So many of us wonder 'why' we're not achieving so much with our day today, when the answer is simple...we need more rest! If you're not feeling 100% today, notice that your energy stocks need replenishment, in any way that works for you. Notice also that if you're physically under par, your emotions will be affected too (well, d'uh! Right?).
What do you need to do to recharge to 100%?
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Never say Never (or Always)
I had an interesting conversation with a client recently, where they stated emphatically that they were always one thing and never another. With a little more questioning, they revealed that wasn't quite true, occassionally they were the opposite - in fact they could think of several situations where they were not what they always are! Never and always are interesting words...and usually lies! I am always cheerful...except when I'm not. I'm always right...except when I'm not. I'm always easy going, except when I am a tyrant!
My friend noted the other day that I never say a bad word about anyone (she hasn't been in the car with me when I'm behind a slow driver lately!). Never and always are words that will catch you out - sod's law states that the second you say you never get ill, you will get ill! No one likes to be wrong, so just never say never...and never say always either. Because ultimately, you don't know what tomorrow will bring...and I like surprises!
Love
Donna.x
My friend noted the other day that I never say a bad word about anyone (she hasn't been in the car with me when I'm behind a slow driver lately!). Never and always are words that will catch you out - sod's law states that the second you say you never get ill, you will get ill! No one likes to be wrong, so just never say never...and never say always either. Because ultimately, you don't know what tomorrow will bring...and I like surprises!
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
A Diamond in the Compost Heap
In my newsletter yesterday I talked about finding the positive spin in a situation. Now it's all very well for me to say this...it can be harder to do! But there is always a positive spin. A friend of mine is in a really tough situation right now, and she e-mailed me yesterday to say that at first she wondered what I was on, then she realised that there was a positive angle to be seen.
It made me think that some examples might be useful to you. Before I do that - this is not about saying 'hey I'm really glad that I have a horrible illness' but about making the best of a situation you are in anyway! Here's the thing - reality is there whether you like it or not...may as well make the best of it, I say! So, here's some examples for you:
It made me think that some examples might be useful to you. Before I do that - this is not about saying 'hey I'm really glad that I have a horrible illness' but about making the best of a situation you are in anyway! Here's the thing - reality is there whether you like it or not...may as well make the best of it, I say! So, here's some examples for you:
- Being skint gives you a chance (reminder) to work on your financial integrity and work out what 'financial freedom' looks like to you.
- Having chronic fatigue syndrome has helped me to set boundaries about what I can and can't do - it also reminds me to take excellent care of myself as if I don't, my body will react badly!
- My mom having a heart attack made me realise how much I love her and how much the family took her for granted. It also gave her a great incentive to look after herself for a change.
What is happening in your life that needs a bit of positive spin?
Love
Donna.x
Monday, July 09, 2007
Smile Like you Mean It
Any tennis fans out there? If you are, you may have taken an interest in more than the singles' finals this weekend, and seen Jamie Murray and Jelena Jankovic lift the mixed doubles title. Now, my interest in these two is partly because I like double's contests, partly because Jamie Murray is a Brit, and partly because of the clear joy they have in playing these games.
You watch any sports contest between top players, and you will see determination, grit, fire, adrenalin and focus. Rarely do you see fun, joy, smiles, laughter. Jelena Jankovic managed to laugh her way through the entire tournament, joking with the crowd, inviting the ball boy to join her, smiling constantly and clearly thoroughly enjoying herself. This obviously affected Jamie, who also smiled and laughed a lot.
It was wonderful to watch. It is a delight to watch joy in action - and this was joy in action. I wish to thank both of them for being little rays of sunshine to my weekend - their obvious enjoyment increased my enjoyment of my weekend, and reminded me to laugh and have fun, whatever I'm doing.
Are you laughing and having fun, whatever you're doing?
Love
Donna.x
You watch any sports contest between top players, and you will see determination, grit, fire, adrenalin and focus. Rarely do you see fun, joy, smiles, laughter. Jelena Jankovic managed to laugh her way through the entire tournament, joking with the crowd, inviting the ball boy to join her, smiling constantly and clearly thoroughly enjoying herself. This obviously affected Jamie, who also smiled and laughed a lot.
It was wonderful to watch. It is a delight to watch joy in action - and this was joy in action. I wish to thank both of them for being little rays of sunshine to my weekend - their obvious enjoyment increased my enjoyment of my weekend, and reminded me to laugh and have fun, whatever I'm doing.
Are you laughing and having fun, whatever you're doing?
Love
Donna.x
Friday, July 06, 2007
Today's Note from the Universe
This really made me chuckle today - if you don't sign up for these daily 'notes from the universe', do it now - www.tut.com.
"Arms up and out, half bent, hands just above head level, facing your peeps waving in a circular fashion. Subtly sway to the left, then to the right. Keep with it, back and forth. Don't stop waving. Now mix in a gentle bob, up and down... That's right, Donna, good...
Now add a little, "Whoo-hooooo, Whoo-hoooo....." as you sway.
Perfect.
Just 5 seconds of this happy dance, just 5 seconds, even when feeling blue, will always make you smile. Your smile will lift your spirits. Your spirits will summon ancient friends. And your friends will raise you higher into the light. Works every time.
This has been a public service announcement brought to you by.... The Universe
Ever read my mother's book, DANDELION? About a little horse that can't find her place in life... until she does! I cry every time I read it. And Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "Dandelion is a marvelous story of the triumph of spirit."
Hardback copies are still being personalized and autographed! Dandelion!
Thoughts become things... choose the good ones! ® © www.tut.com ®
No one said shimmy, Donna. "
Have a magnificent weekend!
Love
Donna.x
"Arms up and out, half bent, hands just above head level, facing your peeps waving in a circular fashion. Subtly sway to the left, then to the right. Keep with it, back and forth. Don't stop waving. Now mix in a gentle bob, up and down... That's right, Donna, good...
Now add a little, "Whoo-hooooo, Whoo-hoooo....." as you sway.
Perfect.
Just 5 seconds of this happy dance, just 5 seconds, even when feeling blue, will always make you smile. Your smile will lift your spirits. Your spirits will summon ancient friends. And your friends will raise you higher into the light. Works every time.
This has been a public service announcement brought to you by.... The Universe
Ever read my mother's book, DANDELION? About a little horse that can't find her place in life... until she does! I cry every time I read it. And Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "Dandelion is a marvelous story of the triumph of spirit."
Hardback copies are still being personalized and autographed! Dandelion!
Thoughts become things... choose the good ones! ® © www.tut.com ®
No one said shimmy, Donna. "
Have a magnificent weekend!
Love
Donna.x
Thursday, July 05, 2007
Don't let the Rain get you down
I’ve noticed something surprising this week – It’s been raining for about a month, and I am not getting depressed when I see another rainy sky. It’s most curious. I am normally a very ‘weather affected’ person.
I think, finally, I have stopped letting things beyond my control get me down (although, put an old dear in an 07 reg car pootling along in front of me when I can’t overtake, and that will be put to the test!). I can’t choose the weather…but I can choose how I react to it. I can be miserable because it’s pishing down and has been for weeks, or I can make the best of things.
A great way to do this is to be grateful. Grateful that the grass can grow, that my house isn’t flooded, that I haven’t been washed away in flood water, that we won’t get a hosepipe ban (surely!), that I have my health, that I have had some comedy moments in the rain…
Ultimately, it will rain whether or not you are fed up about it…so why bother? Let the sky cry, while you grin cheerfully back.
Love
Donna.x
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Wednesday, July 04, 2007
One of those days
Just in case anyone else is having one of those days, I want to tell you what I did this morning...
I walked the dog to the recycling centre with a couple of bags of clothes - went up to the clothes bin, hoisted all the bags into the bin. Chore done, we continued towards the fields on our walk. Once we got into the fields, I realised I didn't have the bag with her poop scoop in it...I'd hoisted that into the recycling bin too! Oops. With no live poo in it (unless yesterday's poo wasn't cleared out...ugh). Sigh.
At this point I realised I should probably go back to bed for the day!
If you're having one of those days, remember to see the funny side.
Love
Donna.x
I walked the dog to the recycling centre with a couple of bags of clothes - went up to the clothes bin, hoisted all the bags into the bin. Chore done, we continued towards the fields on our walk. Once we got into the fields, I realised I didn't have the bag with her poop scoop in it...I'd hoisted that into the recycling bin too! Oops. With no live poo in it (unless yesterday's poo wasn't cleared out...ugh). Sigh.
At this point I realised I should probably go back to bed for the day!
If you're having one of those days, remember to see the funny side.
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday, July 03, 2007
A Physical Being
For the past 3 months, my excuse for not doing any yoga has been that I need a new yoga mat. I finally got round to buying one at the weekend, and have since been exploring the flexibility of my body (conclusion: I am as flexible as a dry twig!). After an exercise hiatus, I am this week getting back into the habit of doing yoga, dancing, walking and swimming...and just 3 days in to the new routine, I feel a thousand times better.
The 21st century encourages a largely sedentary lifestyle in too many of us, with exercise just one more thing to be fitted into a busy day. The irony is that exercise makes that busy day easier. Admit it, you feel better when you exercise - your circulation, heart rate and happiness rate all improve. When your brain is oxygenated, you can work smarter, and when you are physically tired, you sleep better.
Even though we know all this, we still have 201 excuses not to do exercise! So here's what I did: I decided the minimum that I would be happy with each week, and have committed to that. I can do more if I want to (which I always do), but I've made it so easy that it would actually be harder to find an excuse not to exercise!
Remember that you are a physical being, and today decide what teensy, easy thing you could do to get that body moving. Oh yeah, and then do it!
Love
Donna.x
The 21st century encourages a largely sedentary lifestyle in too many of us, with exercise just one more thing to be fitted into a busy day. The irony is that exercise makes that busy day easier. Admit it, you feel better when you exercise - your circulation, heart rate and happiness rate all improve. When your brain is oxygenated, you can work smarter, and when you are physically tired, you sleep better.
Even though we know all this, we still have 201 excuses not to do exercise! So here's what I did: I decided the minimum that I would be happy with each week, and have committed to that. I can do more if I want to (which I always do), but I've made it so easy that it would actually be harder to find an excuse not to exercise!
Remember that you are a physical being, and today decide what teensy, easy thing you could do to get that body moving. Oh yeah, and then do it!
Love
Donna.x
Monday, July 02, 2007
Blue skies and buckets of water
Anyone who isn't in the UK at the moment may not know how much fun the British Summer this year is. So far, we've had 2 weeks of good weather in April...and that's it. Summer officially began in June and it's pished it down ever since. The weird thing is that when the clouds disappear (for 4 seconds) and there is blue sky and sunshine, it's bloomin hot! And when it rains...it RAINS!
I went out to walk the dog today, and was lucky with the weather for 38 minutes of the 40 minute walk. Unfortunately, in the other 2 minutes, it RAINED. I looked like I had a bucket of water chucked at me. And then had the bizarre experience of walking back to the house soaking wet with not a cloud in the sky. Anyone who missed the sudden downpour would have assumed I'd just thrown myself in a stream.
It got me thinking...sometimes life takes you by surprise. And all you can do is laugh. (after scowling at the sky, running under a tree and shaking like a wet dog)
Love
Donna.x
I went out to walk the dog today, and was lucky with the weather for 38 minutes of the 40 minute walk. Unfortunately, in the other 2 minutes, it RAINED. I looked like I had a bucket of water chucked at me. And then had the bizarre experience of walking back to the house soaking wet with not a cloud in the sky. Anyone who missed the sudden downpour would have assumed I'd just thrown myself in a stream.
It got me thinking...sometimes life takes you by surprise. And all you can do is laugh. (after scowling at the sky, running under a tree and shaking like a wet dog)
Love
Donna.x
Friday, June 29, 2007
I'm Back Y'All
Have you missed me?
A few people have asked where I went...it was terribly glamorous, so I don't want you to get jealous! I was in Tile Hill, Coventry. Catsitting. Now you may think (and you'd be right) that cat-sitting isn't exactly the most strenuous of activities, and perhaps doesn't warrant a week off...BUT it was great!
I feel enormously relaxed now - boy, did I need some time off! And as I am catching up frantically today, and want to keep this short, I shall just ask you...
Do you need some time off?
Love
Donna.x
A few people have asked where I went...it was terribly glamorous, so I don't want you to get jealous! I was in Tile Hill, Coventry. Catsitting. Now you may think (and you'd be right) that cat-sitting isn't exactly the most strenuous of activities, and perhaps doesn't warrant a week off...BUT it was great!
I feel enormously relaxed now - boy, did I need some time off! And as I am catching up frantically today, and want to keep this short, I shall just ask you...
Do you need some time off?
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
A Jolly Holi-blog
Or should that be a blog-i-day?
Anyway, what I wanted to say today was that I will be absent from the blog for a week or so. I am having a glamourous holiday...well, actually I am house sitting for a friend, and taking the opportunity to rest, relax and ignore my laptop for a few days! Hazah. I can't wait. Even if it is a holiday in Midlands suburbia (4 miles from my house!), it's still a change of scenery and a chance to rest and relax...and they have a GREAT DVD collection!
Take your recharge time where you can find it.
Love
Donna.x
Anyway, what I wanted to say today was that I will be absent from the blog for a week or so. I am having a glamourous holiday...well, actually I am house sitting for a friend, and taking the opportunity to rest, relax and ignore my laptop for a few days! Hazah. I can't wait. Even if it is a holiday in Midlands suburbia (4 miles from my house!), it's still a change of scenery and a chance to rest and relax...and they have a GREAT DVD collection!
Take your recharge time where you can find it.
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
Even Bad Pub Singers Can be Fun
It's all about attitude. Following my excursion to London to listen to magnificent music and thoroughly throw my heart and soul into the experience, I had the misfortune to be in the pub last night with someone who has the 'worst pub singers in the land' CD and is faithfully reproducing it. It was the point at which my friend and I were trying to figure out what song it was, and realised it was the Kooks (done in the style of a pub singer) that we realised this could be excruciating!
Now I freely admit to being a total music snob. I love credible music. I like to hear good songs done well. One of my pet hates is good songs done badly. So last night was trial by warble for me...Green Day in the style of a pub singer? AAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaargh. And then I remembered that it was my choice to be so badly affected by it - the story I told myself was 'oh my god, he is murdering Green Day. How dare he? Oh, this is awful. Please God let it end!'
That story is never going to result in joyful participation...so I decided to change my attitude in the 2nd half. This was tested within 40 seconds of the restart with a pub-singer style butchering of the Kaiser Chiefs. However, I decided to see the humour...and there was much to laugh at. The odd 'woo's from the singer in random places, the overexcited tambourine player, and the sheer astonishment of a 20-something year old stereotypical pub singer.
I laughed pretty much constantly for the 2nd set. He was no better (to my ears - many in the pub loved him), but the story I told myself was totally different - 'oh, this is funny. Name that tune in 703, what on earth is that 'woo' about?! Is he taking the p&^%?'
What story are you telling yourself about something you are not enjoying? Change the story, change the experience. That doesn't mean I'll be back in the pub next Monday...
Love
Donna.x
Now I freely admit to being a total music snob. I love credible music. I like to hear good songs done well. One of my pet hates is good songs done badly. So last night was trial by warble for me...Green Day in the style of a pub singer? AAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaargh. And then I remembered that it was my choice to be so badly affected by it - the story I told myself was 'oh my god, he is murdering Green Day. How dare he? Oh, this is awful. Please God let it end!'
That story is never going to result in joyful participation...so I decided to change my attitude in the 2nd half. This was tested within 40 seconds of the restart with a pub-singer style butchering of the Kaiser Chiefs. However, I decided to see the humour...and there was much to laugh at. The odd 'woo's from the singer in random places, the overexcited tambourine player, and the sheer astonishment of a 20-something year old stereotypical pub singer.
I laughed pretty much constantly for the 2nd set. He was no better (to my ears - many in the pub loved him), but the story I told myself was totally different - 'oh, this is funny. Name that tune in 703, what on earth is that 'woo' about?! Is he taking the p&^%?'
What story are you telling yourself about something you are not enjoying? Change the story, change the experience. That doesn't mean I'll be back in the pub next Monday...
Love
Donna.x
Monday, June 18, 2007
No one's going to take me alive
Yesterday was a FANTASTIC day! I went to see Muse at Wembley Arena - deservedly voted best live act at many a music award ceremony. There is a moment, when arms aloft, throat fully open and singing back to the stage, I am entirely connected with all that is right with the world.
Loud music, joy, friendship, love, passion, wonder.
Your list of what is right with the world might be slightly different...but when was the last time you connected to it? Do you have appointments to do so on a regular basis? Can you recall it whenever you need to? Okay, nothing beats the live experience, but the CD full blast can recall it quite satisfactorily!
Here's to a life that brings you many of these moments of connnection to all that is right with the world...
Love
Donna.x
Loud music, joy, friendship, love, passion, wonder.
Your list of what is right with the world might be slightly different...but when was the last time you connected to it? Do you have appointments to do so on a regular basis? Can you recall it whenever you need to? Okay, nothing beats the live experience, but the CD full blast can recall it quite satisfactorily!
Here's to a life that brings you many of these moments of connnection to all that is right with the world...
Love
Donna.x
Friday, June 15, 2007
This Question Could Change Your Life
What if nothing was more important than that you felt good?
What might change?
What would have to go from your life?
What would you add?
Worse case scenario: you'd feel good all your life.
Hmm...doesn't sound too bad to me!!!
So, what if nothing was more important than that you felt good?
Love
Donna.x
What might change?
What would have to go from your life?
What would you add?
Worse case scenario: you'd feel good all your life.
Hmm...doesn't sound too bad to me!!!
So, what if nothing was more important than that you felt good?
Love
Donna.x
Thursday, June 14, 2007
Cramming an Elephant into a Matchbox
Have you any idea how magnificent you are? Any idea what a gift you are to the world? What if the world was waiting for you to show up as your very best and most wonderful self?
Stop now. How connected are you to the truth that you are amazing? On a scale of 1-10?
This subject has been brought home in stark relief to me today as I realised that I had been hiding my brilliance, and showing up as smaller than I really am. Like cramming an elephant into a matchbox. And let me tell you, it was not a comfortable place to be! I wonder if your hiding place is comfortable? I'm not talking about physically...I'm still in the realm of metaphor - so it's a spiritual discomfort.
You know that feeling that there is more to life? More to you? That's what I'm talking about. There is. More to life. More to you. More passion, joy and love to be accessed. More brilliance to be shone.
Let me tell you something. You are fantastic. Truly awesome. And if you don't yet know that, 10 out of 10, you will. And if you want some help to see it, 10 out of 10, get in touch now - this is what I do.
Love
Donna.x
Stop now. How connected are you to the truth that you are amazing? On a scale of 1-10?
This subject has been brought home in stark relief to me today as I realised that I had been hiding my brilliance, and showing up as smaller than I really am. Like cramming an elephant into a matchbox. And let me tell you, it was not a comfortable place to be! I wonder if your hiding place is comfortable? I'm not talking about physically...I'm still in the realm of metaphor - so it's a spiritual discomfort.
You know that feeling that there is more to life? More to you? That's what I'm talking about. There is. More to life. More to you. More passion, joy and love to be accessed. More brilliance to be shone.
Let me tell you something. You are fantastic. Truly awesome. And if you don't yet know that, 10 out of 10, you will. And if you want some help to see it, 10 out of 10, get in touch now - this is what I do.
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Back to Basics
Yesterday I put my foot on the accelerator pedal, and somehow manage to do my back in! It is quite an achievement as I did nothing different, nothing bizarre - I didn't try to wrap my leg once round my neck first...I just went to accelerate and YEOUCH! The interesting thing about having a bad back is that you realise just how much you take your back for granted.
Suddenly, turning over in bed is a new experience and fraught with danger, walking becomes something to concentrate on, sitting still is a must. Reaching for a tin has the potential to put you into spasms of agony, and trips to the loo turn into a half-hour of fun (or torture, depending on your perspective!). Everything you do all day is related to your back.
So, today, I have been back to basics - I am only doing what I absolutely must do, and doing it slowly and with concentration. Despite my fears that the world might end if I didn't walk the dog or vacuum the house (shhh - don't even mention the vac in front of my back!), it hasn't.
Just for today, get back to basics. Self-care, fun and laughter. Anything else can wait until tomorrow.
love
Donna.x
Suddenly, turning over in bed is a new experience and fraught with danger, walking becomes something to concentrate on, sitting still is a must. Reaching for a tin has the potential to put you into spasms of agony, and trips to the loo turn into a half-hour of fun (or torture, depending on your perspective!). Everything you do all day is related to your back.
So, today, I have been back to basics - I am only doing what I absolutely must do, and doing it slowly and with concentration. Despite my fears that the world might end if I didn't walk the dog or vacuum the house (shhh - don't even mention the vac in front of my back!), it hasn't.
Just for today, get back to basics. Self-care, fun and laughter. Anything else can wait until tomorrow.
love
Donna.x
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Who's Queen?
I have just been watching Blackadder - the 2nd one, with the magnificent Miranda Richardson as Queenie.
"Grey is customary your majesty" says Melchett
"Who's Queen?" replies the Queen sternly
"Yes, your majesty. The pink Elephant..."
This builds on what I was saying yesterday. Trust yourself. Queenie does not let anyone else's opinion sway her - she is in charge of her own kingdom. Granted, there is a teensy bit of abuse of power...but the lesson remains - be true to yourself, be strong in yourself, stand up for your own decisions, and make those decisions with confidence.
Who's Queen in your life?
Love
Donna.x
"Grey is customary your majesty" says Melchett
"Who's Queen?" replies the Queen sternly
"Yes, your majesty. The pink Elephant..."
This builds on what I was saying yesterday. Trust yourself. Queenie does not let anyone else's opinion sway her - she is in charge of her own kingdom. Granted, there is a teensy bit of abuse of power...but the lesson remains - be true to yourself, be strong in yourself, stand up for your own decisions, and make those decisions with confidence.
Who's Queen in your life?
Love
Donna.x
Monday, June 11, 2007
Trust in me, just in me
How much do you trust in yourself? When you have a decision to make, who do you talk it through with? On Saturday, I was umming and ahing whether to go out with a man I had met...on the one hand, I knew what I wanted (or didn't want) to do. On the other hand, a thousand other voices in my head were telling me to go for it, no wonder I am single if I refuse dates, why the hell not, maybe you'll connect on a date in a way you didn't when you met...
And so on. I considered talking it through with a friend, and then decided to talk it through with myself - my friends will only say the same as I do (I picked them, I know what they will say!). So I had a little chat with myself. I changed one thing though - the voices that tell me I'm a useless, antisocial git had to be constructive! So rather than accusing myself of being an antisocial git, I raised the point that it could be seen this way.
Which allowed me to see how ridiculous that argument is. Just because I am single, does not mean I have to go on dates...it means I can if I want. There are people who will say I'm too choosy (they never met some of my ex's), and people who will say that I should give him a chance. However, I am a busy woman, and I do not spend time with people just because they are there! I spend time with people I have a connection with.
And here's the decider for trusting me - I am really good at spotting if there is a connection with someone. I have been in business for 3 years, and one of the key skills I've learnt is relationship building (which includes relationship severing - why waste time with people you don't connect with?). This is not to insult this chap - he is a nice bloke. There was just no connection on this occasion for me. Who knows what will happen in the future?!
The actual circumstances of this decision are largely irrelevant - the most important thing is that I had a decision to make, and I made it all by myself (well, mostly - I also got a call that cemented my decision, but that's another story!). I trusted myself to know what's best for me. I didn't do what I thought I 'should' do, or what anyone else thought I 'should' do. And do you know what? I am unreasonably proud of that fact!
If you trusted yourself, what decision would you make today?
Love
Donna.x
And so on. I considered talking it through with a friend, and then decided to talk it through with myself - my friends will only say the same as I do (I picked them, I know what they will say!). So I had a little chat with myself. I changed one thing though - the voices that tell me I'm a useless, antisocial git had to be constructive! So rather than accusing myself of being an antisocial git, I raised the point that it could be seen this way.
Which allowed me to see how ridiculous that argument is. Just because I am single, does not mean I have to go on dates...it means I can if I want. There are people who will say I'm too choosy (they never met some of my ex's), and people who will say that I should give him a chance. However, I am a busy woman, and I do not spend time with people just because they are there! I spend time with people I have a connection with.
And here's the decider for trusting me - I am really good at spotting if there is a connection with someone. I have been in business for 3 years, and one of the key skills I've learnt is relationship building (which includes relationship severing - why waste time with people you don't connect with?). This is not to insult this chap - he is a nice bloke. There was just no connection on this occasion for me. Who knows what will happen in the future?!
The actual circumstances of this decision are largely irrelevant - the most important thing is that I had a decision to make, and I made it all by myself (well, mostly - I also got a call that cemented my decision, but that's another story!). I trusted myself to know what's best for me. I didn't do what I thought I 'should' do, or what anyone else thought I 'should' do. And do you know what? I am unreasonably proud of that fact!
If you trusted yourself, what decision would you make today?
Love
Donna.x
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